Hidden Hurt 
Mentor Group

Below you will find the audio files that coincide with each weeks module.  In order to get the most out of the mentor program we would ask that you not jump ahead.  We also asked that you not share, download or save these files. They are recorded for the sole purpose of of providing you the Hidden Hurt Mentor content.  

 Please feel free to reach out to  your coordinator if you have any questions about this. Thanks!

Week 1

Week 2

Week 3

Week 4

Week 5

Week 6

Week 7

Week 8

Week 9

Week 10

Week 11

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Week 1
The Impact of Sexual Impurity: Him, You, and It

Humble yourselves, therefore, under God's mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kind of sufferings. And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast. (1 Peter 5:6-10)

 

Week 2
Dealing with your Feelings​

If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. But when he asks, he must believe and not doubt, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. (James 1:4-6)

 

Week 3
Healthy Interdependence

Remain in me, and I will remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me. I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. (John 15:4-5)

His Story Her Story

Disclosure is often referred to as dumping a bag of rocks (your sinful behavior) onto our spouse’s lap.  The man oftentimes feels very free — free at last.  And the man at the same time cannot understand why the woman feels so burdened.  This video is a wonderful depiction of how that feels and both sides would benefit from watching it.

 

Week 4
Anger & Confrontation

...Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires. Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you. Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. ... the man who looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues to do this, not forgetting what he has heard, but doing it—he will be blessed in what he does. If anyone considers himself religious and yet does not keep a tight rein on his tongue, he deceives himself and his religion is worthless. (James 1:19-26)

 

Week 5
Grief & Losses

I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world. (John 16:33)

 

Week 6
Boundaries

Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life. (Proverbs 4:23)

 

Week 7
A Man's Journey

Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:4-7)

Mark's Story

Each mans story is unique. But the underlying issues are the same. Mark has spoken before many new Hidden Hurt members and his message is always the same.

"I had this problem before I was married. If you hear nothing else from my story, please hear this.
It's not your fault."

 

Week 8
Self Esteem

"Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?" Jesus replied: " 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. 'This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments." (Matthew 22:36-40)

 

Week 9
Forgivness

Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. (Ephesians 4:32)

 

Week 10
Real Intimacy

No one abuses his own body, does he? No, he feeds and pampers it. That's how Christ treats us, the church, since we are part of his body. And this is why a man leaves father and mother and cherishes his wife. No longer two, they become "one flesh." This is a huge mystery, and I don't pretend to understand it all. What is clearest to me is the way Christ treats the church. And this provides a good picture of how each husband is to treat his wife, loving himself in loving her, and how each wife is to honor her husband. (Selection from Ephesians 5 in The Message, a paraphrased version of the Bible)

 

Week 11
Fear, Hope & Trust

The Lord is my light and my salvation – whom shall I fear? The Lord is the stronghold of my life – of whom shall I be afraid? (Psalm 27:1)

 

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